The Word of God tells us that we should love gay people. Maybe that exact sentence isn't written in His Word, but it tells us we should love everyone, from our neighbors to our enemies. This isn't an easy command to follow. But it is a command nonetheless (Luke 6:27).
Whether you believe homosexuality is a sin or not, let that be beside the point for a moment, because no matter what your position on the topic, God says that you still need to love people that are gay. You need to love the people in your life that anger you and treat you badly. You need to love people who do wrong in your sight (Matthew 5:43-48).
Loving someone doesn't mean you have to approve of any sins they may be committing. Nor does it mean that you need to be accepting of their sins. Doesn't loving someone mean in part that you should want to help them; that you should want the best for them? That might require that you talk about their sins and let God's Word speak to them. But what good does it do to treat them badly, violently, or any different than anyone else?
Everyone sins.
God doesn't take any sins lightly. So we all need to help one another while loving one another—doing what is right and good. We should be doing what gives every person the best hope of drawing near to God. What could be more important than securing a place in Heaven after death on Earth for every person possible? Perhaps that just means praying for them, that they may turn to God. You've heard it said “do unto others as you would have them do unto you” (Luke 6:31-34). Now think about that very deeply.
No matter what sins you have, would you prefer that others attack you with words and physical violence; judging you without knowing you? Or rather, would you prefer that they be kind to you and offer to help you? At best, sometimes wouldn't we just want to be left alone? So why do so many people feel the need to abuse others because of their sins or what they believe are sins? It's not our job to force our opinions and beliefs on others. But you can be kind and offer help. You can let someone know about God's Word, and they can listen if they choose to listen. If not, perhaps the timing isn't right, or perhaps you need to brush off your feet and move on (Matthew 10:14).
His Word doesn't say “If they don't listen, abuse them and make them listen.” However, it does say “Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself” (Matthew 22:34-40). Nowhere does He add “...unless they're gay.” God expects us to love one another. You may not like someone, you may not agree with them, but God says you should love them. Can you do it?
That boyfriend you broke up with because he abused you; you may not go out with him again, but can you forgive him and hope he changes his ways and turns to God? That father that was never there for you because he was getting drunk at a bar all the time; can you forgive him and pray that he overcomes his drunkenness and turns to God? The person that murdered someone in your family; you may hurt deeply, but can you forgive them and pray that they turn to God? The person in your class that came out as gay recently; can you treat them in a Godly way? Is there not a single sin that you have committed that you have regretted deeply and only hoped to gain forgiveness for (Romans 3:23)?
Can you put aside the anger and disgust that you harbor for the people that hurt you with their sins or have opposing beliefs (Ephesians 4)? It's not an easy thing to do, is it? But then wouldn't the would be a better place if we all could?
I think so.